Intimate Etiquette in Islam – Islamic Guidelines for Married Couples
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2- To perform prayers of Thanksgiving:
After performing ablution and purifying their hearts and minds, the couple should perform the voluntary prayers of gratitude. They should also make special supplications to Allah Almighty for their mutual love and affection, so that He may grant them the ability to always avoid the forbidden.
3- Reciting a special prayer for intercourse:
Before intercourse: recite Ta’wud wa Tasmiyah (تعوذ، تسمیة) and Surah Ikhlas three times. Then recite this supplication:
بِس٘مِ اللهِ اَللَّهُمَّ جَنِّب٘نَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَ ق٘تَنَا۔ (صحیح البخاری)
Translation:
"In the name of Allah, O Allah! Save us from Shatan and save from Shatan what You have written in our destiny".
In this way, righteous and obedient children will be born. Insha Allah.
4- Husband and wife should cover themselves with a large sheet.
During intercourse, the couple should not be naked, as this will result in indecent and disobedient children. On this occasion, the woman’s entire body should be covered with a long sheet and the husband should advise her to remain modest.
5- Talking lovingly:
During intercourse, the husband should not attack his wife like an animal, but rather talk about kissing, caressing, and loving and affectionate things. Then, gradually, he should talk about things that encourage him to have intercourse.
6- Avoid unnecessary talk during intercourse:
Just as idle talk is disliked in the washroom, idle talk should also be avoided during intercourse. Talking during this time can have a negative impact on the birth of the child.
7- Respecting the direction of the Qiblah:
One should not face the Qiblah during intercourse, as doing so is against the etiquette of the blessed Qiblah. Similarly, one should not turn one’s back towards the Qiblah at this time.
8- Using perfume:
It is a good practice for husband and wife to use perfume during intercourse, so both of them should keep their hearts and minds fragrant with perfume.
9- Respecting the Islamic books and Islamic posters in the room:
During intercourse and companionship, if there are books of interpretation of the Holy Quran, books of Hadith, books of Seerah, books of jurisprudence, and religious books, etc. in the room, then a cloth should be placed over them so that there is no appearance of disrespect.
10- Not revealing each other’s secrets:
It is a very bad deed to talk about intimate relations and sexual intercourse with people and is a major sin. The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The worst person in the sight of Allah is the one who goes to his wife and then talks about her private and Secret things to people.” (Sahih Muslim)
11- The husband should abstain completely during the woman’s menstrual period:
During menstruation, intimacy and companionship should be completely avoided, because intercourse during these days can cause diseases that a person cannot even think about.Therefore, Allah Almighty says:
فَاعْتَزِلُوا النِّسَآءَ فِی الْمَحِیْضِۙ-وَ لَا تَقْرَبُوْهُنَّ حَتّٰى
یَطْهُرْنَۚ-فَاِذَا تَطَهَّرْنَ فَاْتُوْهُنَّ مِنْ حَیْثُ اَمَرَكُمُ اللّٰهُؕ-اِنَّ
اللّٰهَ یُحِبُّ التَّوَّابِیْنَ وَ یُحِبُّ الْمُتَطَهِّرِیْنَ (222)
Translation:
“Keep away
from women during their menstruation and do not approach them until they are
purified. When they are purified, approach them in the manner Allah has commanded.
Indeed, Allah loves those who repent and loves those who purify themselves.”
(Al-Baqarah)
These are
some of the etiquettes mentioned here. These etiquettes and things are
important for all married people to follow in their delicate moments and make
them more enjoyable.
Note:
To learn and understand more such important and difficult issues, one should
turn to religious scholars.
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